If you’re going back to work after being off with the kids, you’ll want to consider a few points before taking the plunge. If you’re like me, you have a mortgage to pay and not enough financial freedom to stay home. I’d love to stay home with the kids, but unfortunately I live in Southern California and have an insane mortgage. I’m also a teacher, and in these days of cuts and economic turmoil, I simply cannot afford to lose my tenure, my schedule at school, and my spot in the district. If things continue in this downward trajectory, I may not be able to find another job in the district for many, many years. Also, my husband and I work at the same school, so we’d be losing that convenience too. We all have our reasons why we have to go back to work. Maybe you need the money like me, or maybe you have a career you really love and don’t want to give it up. At any rate, here’s a few ideas to help you transition back to work.
1. Divide housework and errands with your partner.
When it’s time to go back to work, you’re going to find that it is increasingly difficult to keep up with the daily grind of life…in a different way. I say “in a different way” in that I know how hard it is to keep up with life while staying home. Going to work every day just adds new complexity to an already hectic life. The best way to deal with drop-offs, pick-ups, dinner, cleaning, laundry, work, and spending quality time with your family is to divide the work between you and your partner (and your children if they are old enough). This will not only alleviate a huge load off of your shoulders, but it will also make your household more efficient. Make a list of everything that needs to be done in a day and literally divide it up. Print the list and keep it somewhere handy for your household to reference on a daily basis. You could also use your cell phone to give you and your partner reminders.
2. Give yourself a learning curve
It’s not going to be perfect right away. You’re going from one routine to a totally different one—it’s not easy. And it isn’t necessarily going to be easy on your children, either. Take comfort in the fact that it will get better and smoother and everyone needs a learning curve.
3. Do a practice run.
To make your learning curve smaller, it is highly suggested to do a practice run of your routines. So, a week or so before you go back to work, pretend like you’re going to work to get a feel of what time you need to wake up, how much time you’ll need to get prepared, how much milk to send with the baby, and any other invisible threads that may pop up. If you do it for a week, you’ll be able to gauge what exactly needs tweaking in your routine, and you’ll be better prepared for it.
4. Find reliable, trustworthy childcare.
This is an extremely important component of going back to work. You absolutely must find somebody and/or an organization that is dependable and trustworthy. It’s hard enough going back to work and being separated from your kids, let alone having to go through that and worry if your kids are being taken care of properly. Take the time to properly interview prospects, check references, take a tour of the place where the children will be watched, and do your homework.
5. Come to terms with your decision to go back.
It’s going to feel weird. It’s going to be stressful. You will probably even feel guilty. However, the more you come to terms with your decision to go back, the easier the transition will be. See the situation as a glass half full. For me, obviously I would rather stay home with the kids, but I try to see it from the other side of the fence. If I give up my teaching job in this economy, I might not get it back for years. I’ll be making more money for our family, have some time to myself to make a difference in the world, and I’ll still have a fantastic family schedule. When I focus on the benefits I don’t feel as much guilt.
6. Develop routines and structure.
The only way to run a tight ship is to implement routines and structure into your daily life. It is particularly helpful to plot out your day and schedule on a calendar. Literally penning in what you need to be doing at what hour of the day. Kids thrive on routines anyway, so it will only help your family become more organized and efficient.
Organization and pulling everyone on board to create a more efficient family is essential in your plans of going back to work. Try to get so efficient that you’ll have a lot of time after work to spend quality time with the kids. Who knows…you may actually start spending more quality time with them while you’re working than you did when you are at home. I find that I get more things done when I’m busy, and when you don’t have a lot of something (time), you tend to cherish it a lot more.
My going back to work checklist: finalize childcare, pump and build up milk supply, and work on fine tuning the routines.
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