Have you seen Parenthood? Not the new TV show, but the original movie with Steve Martin. Steve Martin’s son in the movie is a complete blubbering mess for most of the movie, irritating him to no end (not to mention embarrassing the hell out of him).
Well, that was us yesterday. Complete with two adults collapsed in bed at the end of the night.
It was L.P.’s birthday. His real birthday, as opposed to his “party” birthday that we had a few weekends ago. So, we had to do something for him.
His main request was that we take his neighbor friend with us bowling. Wish granted. The boys were rambunctious in the car, prompting me to offer to drive lest my husband have a vapor lock behind the wheel. Adding a kid to the mix really reminded us how great a bigger car would be right about now (we have an Altima).
We got to the bowling alley and all was well. Shoes, lightweight balls, program names into our lane, and we were ready to bowl. The birthday boy got to go first. Everything was going swimmingly, until the birthday boy started to lose.
And that prompted dirty looks, refusing to move out of the lane for the next person to bowl, tears, sobbing, and “I hate you” directed toward me when I made him sit out for his behavior.
Ordinarily I would have just packed up and taken them all home after the first game, but what do you do when it’s the birthday boy being a brat? My husband took him outside for the rest of the game while I played with his friend. He came back and the same nonsense ensued: crying, pouting, poor attitude.
My husband and I made mental notes to ourselves: teach him good sportsmanship.
I was humiliated. People were staring at us. The little neighbor friend looked at us like…wtf is this kid’s problem??!! I wanted to scream to everyone else “I didn’t raise him! We just got him in November!” instead of looking like two parents who didn’t raise this kid very well. I refrained, and we plunged forward trying to use that teachable moment, but I couldn’t help but resent that fact that we went through all this trouble and spent all this money to get a temper tantrum from a poor sport. And I thought in my head the entire time, when I was a kid, my parents would have sent me to a labor camp for this behavior! Okay, they wouldn’t have really done that, but they were no nonsense!
And don’t you just love it when the kids act up in public, bufffered by friends and strangers? You know, when you say through clenched teeth you just wait until we get home buster! Time out for you!
He settled down in the next game when he began winning and got himself a few spares. The very nice older couple next to us cheered him on, and soon he was offering to teach us how to play bowling, completely unaware that it was him that was on the chair blubbering and sobbing like a toddler.
Everything got better after that. We finished up two more games and headed home.
The boys played at the neighbor’s house for a little bit before L.P. came home and I made the meal he requested—grilled cheese sandwich.
We toasted our glasses full of apple juice and followed the gourmet sandwiches with Marie Callendar’s lemon cream cheese pie (by request of the birthday boy), complete with a “trick” sparkling candle that made him laugh endlessly.
Butterball watched his brother from the other side of the table, very interested in what was going on.
And being the gluttons for punishment that we are, we’re going to attempt yet another outing (after we swore we were taking a hiatus from outings) and going to the beach with another little friend of L.P.’s. Crossing our fingers it goes well.
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